Wonderful Month of May
There's so much going on this month that I wanted to write a blog post to celebrate it all. The woman above is a wonderful combination of several of the things I'm celebrating: geriatric (pregnancy), mother (or potential), and Mexican tradition.
The day after I completed a DONA Birth Doula Workshop for my second time, I attended my first birth at St Luke’s on May 1st, 2017. Since then my practice as a doula grew tremendously. In July of 2017 I began volunteering at San Francisco General Hospital as a birth doula. In August I attended my first birth with a paying client and in November I launched my website. Since then I have posted several blog posts, and even had the wonderful opportunity to be interviewed on other websites. Throughout this time I also sat in on several wonderful classes.
To celebrate this wonderful year, several of my former clients got together for a Doula-versary in Dolores Park last weekend. I brought my boyfriend and some homemade scones. It was really great to catch up with everyone and see how their little ones are growing.
2. Mother's Day
The day after my Doula-versary was Mothers Day. A national day to celebrate the wonderful mothers in our lives, be they our own mothers or otherwise. My own mother lives on the other side of the country in North Carolina so I was unable to celebrate in person with her. I am very much looking forward to seeing her in July.
3. Cinco De Mayo
A bit earlier in the month is Cinco de Mayo, celebrating Mexican-American culture and Mexico’s victory over the French Empire.
4. International Doula Month
Also on a national level, May is International Doula Month. To celebrate I wrote my first guest blog post for Stacie Bingham, a wonderful woman who works as a birth educator, doula and breastfeeding specialist in the Bakersfield / Visalia area of California. In this post I spoke about my journey to becoming a doula including why I stopped doing work in the birth community for so many years before embracing it fully and what it’s like to volunteer as a doula.
5. Masturbation Month
May is Masturbation month. This wonderful month began in 1995 a year after the forced resignation of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders in 1994 after she went too far for Bill Clinton. Her final straw was at the United Nations conference on AIDS when she was asked about whether teaching about masturbation in schools might reduce unsafe sex. She responded “I think that is something that is a part of human sexuality, and it's a part of something that perhaps should be taught. But we've not even taught our children the very basics.”
6. Our Birthday
Finally, my boyfriend and I have back-to-back birthdays on May 6th and 7th. The 7th is my birthday. This year I turned 35. This is a significant number in the birth world that is referred to, by some, with the wonderful terminology “geriatric pregnancy”. So now I, like so many others who have an IUD and have been putting off having children for one reason or another, am all set to have such a pregnancy. That is, of course, whenever I do get pregnant.
According to ACOG Individuals over 35 years old are affected by greater chances of high blood pressure and diabetes, increases in children with birth deficiencies, increased complications during pregnancy and labor and increased chance of having multiples. First and foremost, those over 32 have decreased chances of fertility (and interestingly the month of May could be named after Maia - the goddess of fertility). Since I have never been pregnant, I have no idea whether it’s possible. This fact, coupled my extreme love for children, has encouraged me to look into adoption with much more rigor than I might otherwise. I was so taken by the challenging process of adoption that I have decided to offer my services as a doula to those going through the adoption process.
One of the reasons, of late, that I’ve been putting off having children is my desire to complete some major projects in my life that you’ll hear about more as they come up this year.